Sometimes when you surround yourself with negative people it can and will impact yourself. It retrains you to look at things in a different light. It can cause you to build up walls to protect yourself. It sets you up so that if anything goes wrong, you have already expected it and protected yourself. That’s a win right? You are protecting yourself. Looking at the “truth”? Well actually, you may have done more harm than good. Here is the real truth.
You are worried about something coming up and you assume it isn’t going to work out, that way in the off chance it doesn’t work, you have prepared yourself. This assumption could be based on past experiences or it could be based on learned behaviors from the company you keep. You start to think about all the reasons it won’t work. Tons of them and before you know it you have an entire list of reasons you can’t do it. You have already failed yourself and what you were trying to do by not giving it a chance. Now, even if you do give it a chance you probably won’t try hard because you are expecting yourself to fail. This is how you limit yourself. How you limit your success in life. When you chose not to do something based on the off chance of things not going right, you can ruin life experiences. Trips, memories, life lessons. You have to stop holding your fate in your own hands. You are trying to exercise control with the truth is, you aren’t in control. God is. This false sense of control is really self-limitation. Don’t limit yourself.
In reality, you are strong. You can handle it. You are smart enough, you have worked hard enough and you have deserve it. You are the best You. You are happy, you are funny, and you are a good friend. You are an excellent role model, a dependable person, and strong willed. You are important, you are beautiful. You are all of these things to yourself.
Please don’t limit yourself. God has spent all this time removing your limits. Life is ahead of you. There are memories and lesson ahead that are so crucial. There are friendships and experiences just waiting for you to leap.
I will leave you with this one thought. When I was just 17 I had to make an incredibly hard life decision. One that would set the course for my entire life. At just 17 I had to choose between staying home in the comfort of my family, where I was safe or moving 4 states away to live with my best friend and his family. My dad warned me that if I wanted to move I would need all of my own money and if it didn’t work out I would have to figure out my own way home. I had only $700.00 for a plane ticket and my cell phone. I was moving to nothing else. I had nothing else. I was a mess over this. Why would I leave somewhere that I was safe and it required no effort? Moving meant not going back home. It was an all or nothing move. What if we didn’t get along? I kept turning it in my head. I remember I kept asking my parents to reassure me, to tell me what to do. All they would tell me is I had to make the decision myself. I was so confused and time was running out. Here I am, just turned 18 and my parents won’t help me. I knew this was going to be a now or never and I knew if I did this, it would be no turning back. I found every reason and every what-if you could think of. Do you know what I did?
I m o v e d
I moved. I did it because the thought of letting all of my self-doubt and all sense of control go was freeing. In reality I wasn’t in control. God was. This was the biggest, hardest, scariest and most amazing decision I had ever made. You want to know what else? I married him. I get it now. I get why my parents wouldn’t make the decision for me or tell me what I wanted to hear. I needed to make this decision on my own. I need to get the confidence it gave me. Had they made it for me I would praising them. Not myself right now. All I think about now a days is how blessed I am. Where would I be if I had not moved? I really can’t say but I think I can take a good guess and it’s definitely not where God planned for me to be.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
-There is beauty in life